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Tolkien for Husbands
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This week’s small-but-mighty email opens with J.R.R. Tolkien on being overlooked:
Deeds will not be less valiant because they’re unpraised. (Aragorn, The Return of the King)
Husband and fellow warrior-king, Keep doing the right thing because it’s the right thing. Keep doing the right thing because that’s the kind of man you are. Put a knife to the throat of neediness. Needing your wife to notice, thank, or praise you for your benevolent deed. Otherwise, your good deed turns rancid and becomes a bad deed. Today, in your marriage ...
And if your good deeds go unpraised? Do them again tomorrow. You won’t be less of a man … You’ll be MORE of a man. 💪🏼 |
Hi, I'm Jeff.
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