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Better Than Drugs
Hi Reader,
I have a daily gratitude practice. Seven years running.
The science points undeniably in one direction: Gratitude will transform your brain, your body, your life, and your marriage.
Google it if you think I’m exaggerating. It took me 10 seconds to pull this from Harvard Medical School’s website:
Imagine if there was a drug that did this ...
Without side effects!
We’d be lining up for it.
Seek and You Will Find
Today’s email centers around a profound marriage-altering truth:
That needs to be a refrigerator magnet.
Ready to try it?
Ready to reduce conflict?
Ready to build a better marriage?
Fill-in-the-blank prompts like these make it easy to get started:
- I admire this quality of hers (her compassion for others)
- I love how she does this (styles her hair)
- I’m grateful for the time she did this (brought my spare key to Home Depot when I locked my keys in the car)
- One of my favorite memories is when we did this (went rock climbing in Red River Gorge)
Put It to Work
- Try it for 30 days. Write down one thing you’re grateful for. If you come up with two or three, fine, but commit to one. Every day. As part of your morning or evening routine. If you don’t have a morning or evening routine, you do now.
- Don’t jump up and immediately move on to the next thing. Look at what you’ve written. Close your eyes and savor it. Replay that memory in your mind. Imagine your wife doing that thing you’re thankful for. This 10X’s the potency of your practice. It’s how you carve deeper grooves of love, appreciation, and relational well-being in your brain.
- Once a week, text her out of the blue. Tell her what it is you admire about her. What it is you’re grateful for. Read a few more to her in person.
- Watch the temperature in your marriage move from “cool” to “warm.” Watch your wife shine, grow, and become even more awesome.
Your Coach,
Hi, I'm Jeff.
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