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Increase Your Sex Appeal

Hi Reader, Brad Pitt is considered sexy. Marc Anthony is considered sexy. Ditto for Tom Cruise, Sterling Shepard, Jesse James, and the Aquaman guy. These men have something else in common. Each was dumped by the woman he married. #notsexy A question worth asking then: “In the eyes of my wife … Am I growing more attractive or less attractive? Am I trending toward ‘more hot’ or ‘less hot’? Compared to five years ago, is she more interested in sex with me or less interested in sex with me?” As...

6 months ago • 4 min read

Hi Reader, When you think of your marriage, it’s unlikely your mind goes to the second law of thermodynamics (or law of entropy), but it needs to. Otherwise, you risk losing the people you love most. In physics, the law of entropy says that all systems, left unattended, will run down. Unless new energy is pumped in, the organism will disintegrate. Entropy is at work in many areas other than physics. I see it, for instance, when I work with couples whose marriages are in trouble. A marriage...

25 days ago • 2 min read

Hi Reader, Half of all marriages end in divorce. Whatever. I get it. It doesn’t faze me either. But imagine if I invited you to go rock climbing or bungee jumping and said: “We’ll be fine. The death rate is only 50%.” 🤯 That’s marriage. Your marriage. It’s why every husband needs to read this week’s excerpt from my online course. Although it’s aimed at the guy whose wife is shut down, there’s caution and hard-won wisdom here for every man who wants to stand as Guardian and Protector over his...

about 2 months ago • 1 min read

Hi Reader, I can’t stop watching this clip of a father and his teenage daughter. What a beast! So much of what it means to be a man is captured here ... Initiative. Hard work. Sacrifice. Compassion. Commitment. Generosity. Protection. Tenderness. Strength. Resolve. What words would you add? Watch it and let me know! (Click on the video once it starts to unmute it.) Put It to Work Watch the video Go be awesome 👊🏼 Your Coach,

2 months ago • 1 min read

Hi Reader, Are you staring down the barrel of “hard and unfair” this week? This 90-second excerpt from my online course — How to Win Your Wife Back — is for you. Your Coach,

2 months ago • 1 min read

Hi Reader, Much of my marriage pain can be traced to the covert contracts — the unspoken agreements — I had with my wife. A few examples: “If I work hard and earn a decent living, you’ll want to have sex with me 2-3 times a week. Window-rattling sex if I take you out for dinner.” “If I pitch in and do a few household chores, you’ll stop getting on my case about things that don’t matter.” “When I walk in the door, you’ll drop whatever you’re doing, put on something sexy, and shower me with...

3 months ago • 2 min read

Hi Reader, We don’t get it. The sheer weight of it. The marriage-changing power of it. Even after writing a chapter about it for my last book, I still haven’t grasped its impact! I’m referring to how the dynamic in a home changes when husbands go first. When we step into our leadership role. When we move from passive to powerful. It touches everything. When a husband takes initiative and goes first ... He develops self-respect He grows more confident He activates his masculine core He...

3 months ago • 2 min read

Hi Reader, When your wife is angry — whether it‘s justified or unjustified — you probably do what most of us do. You get defensive. Or you sputter and make excuses. The result? She grows more angry. Mount Vesuvius. Your home is covered in ash. A Better Way This week’s marriage wisdom comes from Alex Hormozi, billionaire founder of Gym Launch and Acquisition.com. The clip below is geared toward business owners but carries a profound lesson for every husband tired of sweeping up ash. Grab your...

4 months ago • 1 min read

Hi Reader, This week’s marriage wisdom comes from Simon Sinek — New York Times bestselling author of Find Your Why and Leaders Eat Last. Has your wife ever had a hard day? Has she ever been sad? Has she ever wanted to murder one of your children? And have you ever thought, “Crap. I have no idea how to respond right now”? If so, this 2-minute video will be worth your while. The clip is a bit “touchy-feely,” but you won’t die. What Sinek shares is a game-changer and the metaphor he uses will...

5 months ago • 1 min read

Hi Reader, Are you a world-class husband? Maybe so. But there’s still one thing you can’t do: You can’t talk your wife out of an emotion. Logic doesn’t work.Reason doesn’t work.Trying to reassure her doesn‘t work.Trying to calm her down doesn’t work.Giving her advice doesn’t work. All of us have tried! The result is always the same. Disaster. Frustration on both sides Hurt feelings Broken connection And over time, despair. Yet still we try. Foolishly. A Better Way Tired of endlessly repeating...

5 months ago • 4 min read

Hi Reader, I’m traveling this week, so in lieu of new content, enjoy this email from five years ago, when only my mom, brother Kevin, and three closest friends were on this list. Two options. That’s it. I didn’t know this when my marriage was gasping for air. I could’ve sworn there was a third option — pray, wait patiently, and believe it will magically get better. Dumb with a capital D. God doesn’t change marriages. He changes people, and he wanted to start with me. He wanted to stretch me....

5 months ago • 1 min read
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