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Would you rather be comfortable or would you rather have a world-class marriage? Duh, Jeff. I know, it sounds like a stupid question, but here’s the pattern I see repeated in so many homes:
I know these 15 points so well because I lived them. I didn’t understand what renowned psychologist Sue Johnson spells out so clearly in Hold Me Tight: “I feel so hopeless when I can’t get through to you. I’ve never felt so lonely, not even when I lived alone.” Sarah’s message is urgent but Tim doesn’t get it. He finds her “too emotional.” But that’s the point. We’re never more emotional than when our primary love relationship is threatened. I was weak. Like Tim, I labeled my wife “too emotional” and viewed each complaint of hers as an attack — something to be avoided. Sadly, I got what I wanted — the momentary relief and comfort of not having to deal with her “upsetness.” But I forfeited the greater comfort of having a marriage that was strong, close, nourishing, and intimate. You’ve heard of “Choose your pain”? Choose your comfort. Put It to Work
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Hi Reader, When you think of your marriage, it’s unlikely your mind goes to the second law of thermodynamics (or law of entropy), but it needs to. Otherwise, you risk losing the people you love most. In physics, the law of entropy says that all systems, left unattended, will run down. Unless new energy is pumped in, the organism will disintegrate. Entropy is at work in many areas other than physics. I see it, for instance, when I work with couples whose marriages are in trouble. A marriage...
Hi Reader, Half of all marriages end in divorce. Whatever. I get it. It doesn’t faze me either. But imagine if I invited you to go rock climbing or bungee jumping and said: “We’ll be fine. The death rate is only 50%.” 🤯 That’s marriage. Your marriage. It’s why every husband needs to read this week’s excerpt from my online course. Although it’s aimed at the guy whose wife is shut down, there’s caution and hard-won wisdom here for every man who wants to stand as Guardian and Protector over his...
Hi Reader, I can’t stop watching this clip of a father and his teenage daughter. What a beast! So much of what it means to be a man is captured here ... Initiative. Hard work. Sacrifice. Compassion. Commitment. Generosity. Protection. Tenderness. Strength. Resolve. What words would you add? Watch it and let me know! (Click on the video once it starts to unmute it.) Put It to Work Watch the video Go be awesome 👊🏼 Your Coach,