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Hi Reader, Brad Pitt is considered sexy. Marc Anthony is considered sexy. Ditto for Tom Cruise, Sterling Shepard, Jesse James, and the Aquaman guy. These men have something else in common. Each was dumped by the woman he married. #notsexy A question worth asking then: “In the eyes of my wife …
As every husband knows, “interested” matters. Sex loses its sheen when it feels obligatory. When it feels like a chore. We want more than sex. We want sex with a woman who’s into us. A woman who’s attracted to us. We all want to be wanted. Yes, single men, there is something worse than not having sex … And that’s having sex with a woman who looks like she’d rather be doing anything else. I don’t need to be sexy in the estimation of all women or even the majority, but I do want to be considered sexy by the woman it matters to. I do want to grow more attractive in her eyes. The shortest chapter in my second book reads like this: It doesn’t matter how we define “sexy.” How do they define “sexy”? Not the women of pop culture, but ordinary, healthy, grounded, put-together, capable women. And shouldn’t we pay attention? This week, I found myself asking … If sexy is an effect … If ongoing, long-term attraction is an effect …
I scoured the internet this week to hear what women have to say. And while there are nuances, especially when it comes to physical traits, women across the planet unanimously agree on a handful of qualities that make men sexy. The snippets below are from ordinary, run-of-the-mill married women. Not celebrities, but real people — moms, teachers, business owners, doctors, and housewives. They were asked: What makes your husband sexy? Grab your notebook. Married Women Weigh InI waded through thousands of responses. I chose the recurring ones. Each statement represents hundreds of others just like it.
These next few are in response to a similar but slightly different question: What makes a man sexy?
Do you notice the common themes? He’s tuned in He’s hands-on He takes initiative He connects with her emotionally He’s Lover Bottom line … Your youthful good looks might fade, but that doesn’t mean you have to fall off the i’m-sexy-and-i-know-it cliff. If you listen closely, your wife will give you the game plan for growing more attractive over time. So go ahead and announce it: “I’m bringing sexy back.” [fist bump] Now get to work. Put It to Work
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Hi Reader, Half of all marriages end in divorce. Whatever. I get it. It doesn’t faze me either. But imagine if I invited you to go rock climbing or bungee jumping and said: “We’ll be fine. The death rate is only 50%.” 🤯 That’s marriage. Your marriage. It’s why every husband needs to read this week’s excerpt from my online course! Although it’s aimed at the guy whose wife is shut down, there’s caution and hard-won wisdom here for every man who wants to stand as Guardian and Protector over his...
Hi Reader, I can’t stop watching this clip of a father and his teenage daughter. What a beast! So much of what it means to be a man is captured here ... Initiative. Hard work. Sacrifice. Compassion. Commitment. Generosity. Protection. Tenderness. Strength. Resolve. What words would you add? Watch it and let me know! (Click on the video once it starts to unmute it.) Put It to Work Watch the video Go be awesome 👊🏼 Your Coach,
Hi Reader, Are you staring down the barrel of “hard and unfair” this week? This 90-second excerpt from my online course — How to Win Your Wife Back — is for you. Your Coach,