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Hi Reader, A friend of mine just wrote his first book and it’s really good. A prospective publishing house asked him how he was promoting it. Him: “I plan to use Facebook ads, my personal and professional networks, and social media.” Them: “We’re not interested in what you plan to do. Tell us what you’re doing.” Our wives are no different. Execution is KingYou are what you do, not what you say you’ll do. (Carl Jung)
I unfairly wanted my wife to judge me — not by what I did — but by what I intended to do. By what I was going to do. I never afforded her the same luxury, of course, but held her to a much higher standard, judging and evaluating her strictly by her actions. Jung was right: We are what we do, not what we say we’ll do. Pledges, promises, vows, verbal commitments, words, deadlines, and other people’s praises don’t shape our wife’s perception of us. Only our actions do. Only our follow-throughs do. In the world of women, execution is king. Good intentions weigh less than a dryer sheet. Put It to WorkHenry Ford put it this way, “You can’t build a reputation on what you’re going to do.” OK, grab a pen and paper. Here’s where this simple email turns into rocket fuel:
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