Hi Reader,
This quote changed my life 10 years ago:
Before Navy SEAL commander Jocko Willink had published his bestseller by the same name, I had discovered the nuclear power of Extreme Ownership.
Just to be clear, this isn’t about “fault.” This isn’t about shame. This isn’t about beating ourselves up.
This is about leadership and self-empowerment.
Let me illustrate ...
I’m on the phone with a client, and he’s telling me about a heated exchange he had with his wife the night before. At one point, he moaned, “I know, I know, it’s my fault again.”
You can imagine his tone, can’t you? It bordered on self-loathing and contempt. “I’m such a screw-up. I never do anything right.”
That’s a victim mindset.
That’s weak.
That’s dis-empowering.
I replied, “No, Chris! You’re missing the point! It’s not your fault, it’s your responsibility.”
Most of us have given our power away.
Extreme Ownership is how we take it back!
Go nuclear,
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