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Hi Reader,
My close friend Javier uses every opportunity to remind me of a simple but powerful truth:
I don’t have to do hard things, I get to do hard things.
I don’t have to workout, I get to workout.
I don’t have to love people in their worst moments, I get to love people in their worst moments.
I don’t have to be a better man, I get to be a better man.
I thought of him and his commitment to beast mode when I stumbled across this ancient quote (62 A.D.) yesterday:
There are two ways to hear that, right?
If I ignore Javier and put it in the “have to” category, my ego reacts and starts churning out a litany of protests and objections:
The result?
Nothing changes.
Mediocrity lives to fight another day.
However ...
If I put our ancient quote in the “get to” category, my inner hero arises, victimhood comes grinding to a halt, and my brain gets pointed in a very different direction:
Have to.
Get to.
Choose wisely.
In closing, I’m reminded of another ancient quote. This one by Epictetus. I’ll leave you with it.
My friends Javier and Shannan lead a monthly marriage bootcamp, offer coaching for men and women, and produce practical, hard-hitting, and very entertaining video shorts for couples in every stage of marriage.
(If you’re a frustrated or checked-out wife, I highly recommend Shannan’s group coaching program.)
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Your Coach,
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